10 Comments Family & de facto law, financial agreements, consent orders
You need to stay calm (for the sake of the baby). The fact that the baby will need you to breastfeed her (if that is your choice) will help to delay any chance of the father taking her from you.
I suffered from anxiety and depression and my ex tried to use this against me but he was not sucessful.
It sounds like your partner is trying to bully you into thinking he will get his own way. The courts look at what is in the best interest of the child. And as everyone knows in an ideal world the best thing is for the child to have a relationship with both of it's parents.
You need to stand up for what you think is right but also need to make sure that you are making the baby available to your parter for visitation etc. Because if the matter goes to court it is in your favour if you can show that you are willing to allow a relationship with the father etc.
Again don't stress as this will not help you. Another thing is always document everything as it is very easy to forget dates etc.
Thanks you, the problem is also I am from Victoria and he is a Queenslander. He moved to Vic to be with me. He wants to take her back up north. I do want him in her life, but he is very emotionally abusive and I am struggling because I really need to make a move from him for my own sake as well. It is a total mess and all I keep thinking now is I am going to give birth and never see this little angel again. I have kept alot of his text messages that he sent and I will keep track of things from now on. I am sorry to hear you have been through similar.
Whatever you do do not move from where you are now. Let him be the one to move away. He can not just take the baby and run and if he did then I am sure you would be able to make an urgent application considering the child would be a newborn.
It would be in your best interest to get some legal advice now. Give legal aid a call. Here is their website to get more info http://www.legalaid.vic.gov.au/ I am not sure what can be done before the baby is born but definately you will need to put an application into the courts as soon as the baby is born. The other thing that you can do (and will need to before you go to court) is to apply for mediation. This can be done through a relationship centre. From memory the first 4 hrs of mediation are free. It might be handy to get that done before the baby is born that way you will not be waiting any longer than you have to. Again the trick is to document everything you can. You will be glad that you did.
Does he still live with you?
As has been already said, keep a diary, get some legal advice / court applications going if you can.
There are a lot of people out there, perfectly good parents included with depression, anxiety issues. This guy sounds like a bully, don't be affected by this bluff. He is trying to use your child as a tool of manipulation even before it is born
I can't see how there can be ANY WAY AT ALL, this fellow can have your child taken from its mother, especially if you have the help of your own parents & their security & home available to you.
Let legal aid know of these threats.
hellokitty, you are being told a lot of rubbish by a bully.
Stay with your parents, they are providing you with support, see a solicitor to establish some ground rules with the father, first would be to stop the bullying, second would be to obtain some maintenance for yourself, as you are carrying the child, and I presume not working, next to put things in place for some child support once the child is born.
He will have some rights of access to the child once born, however if he continues running around like a headless chook he is going to seriously damage these.
He sounds like a spoilt child.
You might like to get some counseling for yourself, as this is a difficult time for you and having a bully in the background is not an ideal situation.
Best wishes for the birth, and good luck.
He cant take the baby, unless there is something major like child abuseor bad things like that.No one takes a child from a mother unless the situation is extremly dire to the babys health and well being. Stay where you are,around family and get lots of support, keep him out of your life as much as u can and when you have the baby keep him limited access, see a solicitor as soon as you can after baby comes and tell them about the situation and dont ever leave him alone with or near the baby. I say that because it takes minutes for him to run out the house with the baby, then all you can do is get a recovery order asap. Most of the time they take time some days if you live in rural areas. Dont let him bully you into this, and depression pfftttttt u know how many mums/people have bouts of depression in their lifes?! Its nothing, tell him to bug off and leave you in peace. Nows the time to nuture your baby stress free and depressed free. goodluck and happy birth!!