3 Comments Family & de facto law, financial agreements, consent orders
Dear Donna Lee,
I am currently going through a property settlement but I have a house with a very high mortgage on it, as my ex did splurge on credit cards etc. If you do not own property and you both have agree that what u both have is it well ok, u do have to make sure your child is protected as far as child support and also that you ex cant come back at u in a few months time and try and something else from you. There are forms on the Family court of australia website that can be logged, u and him both have to sit down and sign them agree and lodge with the court. If any fees involved it will have them also on the site. I know its a hard time and I am quite sick of it myself and solicitors just rip u off I am one that knows. Good luck if you want to get back to me please feel free.
Thank you for your words, there should be a outside support group for people in these situations. It would be great to meet some on the people that you get advise from.
I am still confused about all of this, as when I speak to family law, legal aid they say there is nothing to settle, but then there is the but, but if by chance I start to go forward in life and it is 12 months after my divorce he is still entitled to things. Why and how can this happen if what you aquire has been done with your own money and nothing to do with the ex.
Hi Donna Lee,
Once you are divorced that is it you and him are separate identities as you will have the divorce paper to prove it, in regards to spending your money on something I would imagine that it would come out of your account my advice is to keep receipts for anything you purchase it may make you feel a little better. I do know where you are coming from I do get a bit afraid of my ex I borrowed against the family home to give him close to 40 thousand last year as he was in dire straits so I told him that is your share of the equity left in the house. Originally my inheritance bought 95% of the home and I want to stay here but I foot the bill for a mortgage 222,000 and I am not even touching his super. It is such a bloody awful time and for kids as well, I have one son and he feels it. So Donna Lee yr not alone and I am happy to conversere and Yes i agree it would be nice to meet people in similar situations. I dont know what state your from but I am in sydney. If i can help anymore please feel free.