Family & de facto law, financial agreements, consent orders
Ooops you can now read the whole story on this site, hey anyone who wants to come down on my side would be great!!
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MartinO 2009-11-07 11:36:48
On the face of it, the events seem very one sided and not fair. However I'm sure that there is another side to this that we are not hearing.
For a start young mothers with a loving husband do not just go off and have affairs. The relationship appears to have been in trouble, why was this? Running away and preventing the child from having contact with the other parent is not normal behaviour, what is going on here?
Sometimes a parent can have an irrational or deluded fear of the other party, but the meetings with a counselor are designed to find this, and look at ways to work through this.
Nothing happens overnight, and rather than going down the, "It's all so unfair", path, some consistency and stability is required. The needs of the child must be put first, and ideally the child should have contact with both parents, and have this regularly.
You need to keep working towards this, and provide whatever material assistance is needed to help raise the child, even though contact has not yet been reestablished.
Some personal counseling to help sort out your self awareness and relationship views, would not go astray, all this will help once contact with your child, and the meetings with the other parent, that will happen once the case moves along.
You need to put behind you what has happened, and resolve to be the best dad possible to your daughter once contact is reestablished.
This is a heart wrenching story, as MartinO has said above, there are always two sides to a story.
With what is written it would seem that your brother has had consistently appalling treatment EVERYWHERE he turns, I know it sounds unfair, but one has to ask what was it that your brother did to warrant such treatment from his ex & it seems everybody in the family court system??
If this is indeed just vindictiveness & revenge (revenge for what)on the part of his ex as you state..... is there no character references you can obtain for him or them as a couple, or his relationship with his daughter prior to the split (other then his family)?
I know mutual friends during a relationship are often loathe to take 'sides' as it were after a separation, but are they aware of how your brother is being treated..... surely they would help unless he has done something unforgivable?
I'm sorry but the family court is very different now than it used to be and unless she had compelling evidence that your brother shouldn't have much access to his children then he WOULD have got it.
You only know one side of the story from your brother. You don't have her side of it. Your brother will ONLY tell u what he wants you to know. I know that my daughters father has only told his side to his parents and this is a man who should NEVER be allowed to have children so I'm sorry but I think it is very one sided.
Yes there are always two sides to all these stories and many proceed without any thought being given to that.
Mediators will and do laugh at comments! Mediators do get biased and agressive! Mediators do get emotionally drawn in.
There are many unprofessional mediators out there I have been to a few. Some are about as good as they can get, others should not be in that industry. Sad but true.
Unfortunately many mediators also follow old beliefs and laws and quickly form support for their own gender.
I honestly would have thought that any mediator who laughed during a session would be reported and eventually after enough times being reported they would have their licence revoked. Family mediators MUST be accredited. I would imagine laughing during a session would be against ethics.
Anyway regardless of that I still see this as being very one sided.
I can agree the courts are wrapt sometimes, i lost my 2 kids because their father took them to NZ to meet a woman and marry her. It took me 2 years and the hauge convention assistance to get them back to aussie after getting him here, with his "new" family" finally a court date was set 1 year from when they came back. thats 3 years without my kids, no access, I went to court fought tooth and nail for them only to have the judge tell me he wont remove the kids from his care because he has a new family and they are familiar with his environment. I was devestated. The judge then had the hide to say i was a respectable woman and a great loving mother..i dont have much faith in the coourt system either, its not ony dads, it mums too who come out losers. Im sorry bout your brother:(