1 Comments Family & de facto law, financial agreements, consent orders
We have the same problem, only the other way around. My 5yo step-son doesn't want to visit us. He never gives a reason, but flies into hysterics every time we arrive to pick him up for the weekend. When we speak with him during the week he's very keen to come, and he always has a great time when he's with us and generally doesn't want to go home.
We are concerned his mother is encouraging him to not come with us, but she swears that's not the case. However she does baby him when we're there, "are you sure you want to go, you don't have to if you don't want to" and so on. She then tells him how much she'll miss him until he's so distraught that he can't bear to go. If we try to force him, we're the baddies, but if we don't we never get to see him. We think the main culprit is that he gets a choice, and his mother refuses to make him do anything because she "doesn't want to damage her relationship with him".
Does anyone else have this problem? How do you deal with it? Is it a stage he'll grow out of? And can his mother deny us visitation because of this, as she's currently doing?