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Child Support - What is reasonable

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    Posted: 13/December/2017 at 11:30
HI - you write: 'According to CSA guidelines you are responsible for everything that happens on the days you have the kids. Same for the other parent when she has the kids.' My ex arranges medical appts and dental appts in my time purely so I have to pay. How do I deal with that? What is reasonable? Can i tell the dentist etc. I will pay 50% and can they send the remainder to my ex for payment? THanks

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  Quote jaazzz Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 13/December/2017 at 16:53

Frank... I have started a new thread for you... You posted on the end of a very old thread
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  Quote emca01 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 14/December/2017 at 08:48
been there done that. Mate there is no LEGAL answer. So my rambling thoughts are just that... opinion, advice, but not a definitive answer.... here goes...
It depends on where you are up to in this great big family game called family law...

Give us more details... So do you have consent orders? court orders? parenting plan? how long since separation? How much time are you spending with the kids?

So like i said, there are no clear rules... BUT shared parental responsibility means that you and the ex have an obligation to try to make an agreement about long term issues pertaining to the kids... Google the term 'shared parental responsibility" . Long term decisions like schools, serious health issues etc etc.. But stuff like when the kids go to the dentist is not covered.

So my thoughts - make an appointment or two on her time... go on dare ya. See what she does... Nope, ok let's not....

Look if you're early on in this process and there is no court orders about when you see the kids, then it might be prudent to suck it up in the short term. Better that than her deciding you cant see the kids because you're not 'prepared' to do the 'important' parenting stuff. You have to think long term and you have to think about what happens IF this goes to court...

So when I was in a situation similar to your's where my ex seemed intent on making life difficult. i was seeing the kid every Tuesday from after school and alternate fri-Monday morning, I wanted 50/50 care but she would not agree.... She booked stuff routinely on the Tuesday and Friday. So I did the following... I wrote her a very nicely worded email along the lines of...
Dear ex,
In the last few weeks I have attended several medical appointments that were booked by you. In the event of a medical emergency of course I will ensure the kids get the medical attention that they need.
However, i would like to propose that going forward from here we have a mutual understanding that neither of us will book appointments during the times that the children are in the other parent's care. I understand that sometimes there is some urgency in getting kids medical attention, so of course there could be exceptions to the rule. However, I would like to suggest that we agree that in such instances, the parent who is booking the appointment asks the other parent as a courtesy and the parent who will be supervising the kids has the right to refuse.

Kind regards...

Seem pretty reasonable don't ya reckon??? me too... But my ex disagreed.

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